Communication: a marvelous thing and very tricky even in today’s world with all this technology at our fingertips…if you haven’t got clarity you may be missing the point….

I see everything coming at us nowadays as ‘white noise’. There are so many assaults on our senses that it is hardly surprising when communication gets tangled. To find clarity with the right words sounding the right tone at the right time is a tricky thing…it’s a wonder we try to communicate at all with that kind of pressure.

It does not matter what gadget we have, what tool at our disposal, it is the words and the way we use them that counts.

There is also the internal dialogue that is constantly running in our heads and I am sure that quite often folk think they have said something or an assumption is made that the other person has understood without actual words being spoken. Most of the time these misunderstandings have little or no impact, but at the other end of the scale the fallout is glorious and can often snowball.

A good friend of mine dislikes the internet with a passion but his need to purchase a particular vehicle at the moment brings him to my study and the utilsation of my Googling skills. The running joke is that I am his P.A., so picture the scene; he states his vehicle preference, I type and the search is started. There are multiple adverts scrolling down the screen (at least 20 at a time) and he sits there and says ‘Open that one’… response ‘Which one?’…..his reply ‘That one?’….’For crying out loud which one?’ My voice may have been slightly raised at this point. There follows a conversation along ‘Monty Pythonesque’ lines with various quips about me being a rubbish P.A. and that if I am psychic I should know which one he meant. Yes, we are still friends but I have left him in no doubt that he needs to be clearer in his communication. I am in no danger of him reading this as he does not go online!! I will tell him though….

Another funny moment springs to mind from yesterday. Two happy little girls baking after lunch and this was rather tiring for one little one and she fell asleep on the sofa so her sister and I cleared up. We had a lovely time and this dear little one was so happy washing up and playing with the bubbles that she sang her own songs and was really proud when she got them to rhyme. No mean feat for a lassie who has only just turned four. This caught her imagination because when her sister woke up and we had collected their brother from school she went and found her toy microphone and tucked up in the front room. I am making the tea in the kitchen and they are all settled watching ‘Backyard Science’ on the telly……peace I think….think again. This dear little one continues to sing into her microphone to the dismay of her brother who choses not to communicate with words but regularily pelts her with cushions. It was only the intervention of tea being served that restored some sense of order. I did have a quiet word with her brother that it may have been more helpful to talk and suggest that she came into the kitchen with me as I appreciated her singing more than he did and throwing soft furnishings at her was not an option!

Happy days x



4 Responses to “Communication: a marvelous thing and very tricky even in today’s world with all this technology at our fingertips…if you haven’t got clarity you may be missing the point….”

  1. 1 ianscyberspace May 18, 2014 at 3:52 am

    I miss those sounds of happy children in the home. Mine are all grown up and have children of their own.


    • 2 Jane Thorne May 18, 2014 at 7:14 am

      Yes Ian, as do I. Such a happy, uncomplicated sound. I wrote this post a few years ago now, when I was helping to care for a friends little ones. A blogging buddy found it and re-blogged it yesterday, so it’s seeing the light of day again. My next assignment is a very different one and I may get to cuddle a little one. It will be lovely. 🙂


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