Watching, listening, reading the opinions of others on how someone else feels…we can never truly know how another feels, all we can offer is love and support as unasked for opinions can be damaging…

It’s an art not to take a judgmental stance and if you find yourself doing so it takes strength and compassion to keep quiet.

We can never truly know how another feels, exactly what they are dealing with, their perspective, their current life framework and path.

Lately I have been following a delightful blog by ‘1smiles’ here on WordPress and it is an absolute treat. Sometimes the comments left there make me wince with the judgments taken, but they are handled beautifully by the lady who writes it and she always comes back with different perspectives that are thought provoking.

By offering opinions and sitting in judgment we close the door on another soul. If they still wish to be near us after ‘an event’ it puts them in a defensive position and everything gets tangled and messy. We learn through our own ‘life knocks’, by listening to and watching others and sometimes through the advice we have asked for.

Seth Godin, a man I respect and admire, blogged yesterday his thougths on how to insulate yourself and his last point was ‘ignore unsolicited advice’.

Unsolicited advice and opinions….the flotsam on life’s stream that you can safely allow to flow past you.


4 Responses to “Watching, listening, reading the opinions of others on how someone else feels…we can never truly know how another feels, all we can offer is love and support as unasked for opinions can be damaging…”

  1. 1 1smiles December 15, 2011 at 12:09 am

    Thank you for continuing to read and support and encourage me personally and also my writing.
    It is so important to try to walk through life with kindness and whenever possible giving the other person the benefit of the doubts we encounter.
    My hope is that I will learn form my experiences and that maybe others can too.
    (((Jane))) Hugs!!


  2. 3 Eric December 14, 2011 at 1:54 pm

    You are so very right. A blade wound heals…a word wound never…


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