Still the inner critic…be kind to yourself today.

Yesterday I found myself at a meeting where the talk was well talked but the walk fell woefully short of the promised walk and delusion was alive and well. Not a problem as I will keep moving forward to explore further opportunities but I found myself on the rather long drive home critising myself for having gone in the first place. The kind of inner talk that goes along the lines of ‘Was there anything in the discussions leading up to the meeting that would have alerted me?’ ‘What did I miss?’ ‘Am I just not sharp enough?’ etc…etc… and on it went till my head hit the pillow last night. Not helpful and then I had a lightbulb moment: as life unfolds and you hit a kink in the road mentally beating yourself up achieves nothing. So I thanked ‘Critical Jane’ for sharing her opinions and she went quiet.

End of discussion.


24 Responses to “Still the inner critic…be kind to yourself today.”

  1. 1 Jeannie March 12, 2012 at 2:59 pm

    Jane, I am going to remember that last line of yours in this post. This inner critic of mine is trying to get the upper hand and she needs to be quieted and put in her proper place! Thank you for this!!


  2. 3 kewsmith March 3, 2012 at 5:19 pm

    I’m going to remember this, Jane, because I can be hard on myself at times. I’ll try to acknowledge and quiet my ‘inner critic’. Thanks for sharing.


  3. 5 Francina March 2, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    If you would not have gone, you might have been wondering what it was about and know you know . Be nice to yourself, dear Jane.. πŸ™‚

    You know the expression made me smile though ..I think it has a humor ring to it. I might print it out and hang behind my desk at work… πŸ™‚

    love to you , Francina


    • 6 Jane Thorne March 2, 2012 at 5:41 pm

      It’s definately funny and I don’t live by it…the very idea of rationing out kindness is unthinkable. Boundaries are good though and I am learning those and yes I would always have wondered about the opportunity being presented on Wednesday, so at least I know now!!! When I was a technical author at Rank Xerox I had a sign behind my desk ‘Typist sits here now Sod off…….’ Love to you xx


  4. 7 granbee March 1, 2012 at 6:57 pm

    Wondeful approach–thanking your inner critic! Very polite and very effective, apparently. Yes, we do need to ceased wasting one tiny micrmilliliter of energy on beating ourselves up!


    • 8 Jane Thorne March 2, 2012 at 11:44 am

      I was told years ago that I was a rebel at school but unfailingly polite!! Oh the time we waste Rose on being unkind to ourselves….love to you xxx


  5. 9 Maxi Malone March 1, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    You can’t unring a bell, Jane. Sometimes, you have to “chalk it up” and move on. As long as you are true to yourself, have no regrets.

    Btw, the girl that cuts my hair has that sign on the mirror, makes me laugh every time.

    Blessings – Maxi


    • 10 Jane Thorne March 1, 2012 at 12:48 pm

      Thank you Maxi and I have no regrets, that would be pointless and add insult to injury. Like I said to Peter today is a new day and it’s going good – I hope yours is too? x


  6. 11 Grandfathersky March 1, 2012 at 12:03 pm

    Jane – In computing we call it “stuck in a loop” If this, then that, with nothing to change the condition. Until you hit the reset! Well you learned something yesterday, and I suppose be thankful for that. If it was the first time you met face to face then you did well. Telephones and emails conceal a lot. It’s a new day isn’t it…? Be well, and be whole…


  7. 19 lostupabove March 1, 2012 at 10:07 am

    Your slogan sounds a bit like those messages you get on the telephone: “All our lines are engaged, but we will help you as soon as possible.”, bit I like this more. Doesn’t cost anything πŸ˜€
    Steph xxx


  8. 21 maturestudenthanginginthere March 1, 2012 at 9:42 am

    Sometimes we just have to let things be, let them go and look for the light in other places. I’m pleased you found your light Jane.


  9. 23 Jane Thorne March 29, 2012 at 9:45 am

    You are kind Saundra and thank you – have a great day x


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