The restorative powers of friends who make you laugh and Mars bars…….


It happens to us all and this week I got a dollop of it as life’s irritants got the better of me for a little while.

Take a handyman who plays fast and loose with the schedule yet produces great work (albeit painfully slowly), a landlord who views everything as a battle (including conversations), my work shifts going to pot because of the first two points, a beltingly difficult face to face client, another beloved client under pressure who is emigrating and I am selling things for her, the weather, a beautifully handmade window blind not fitting (I measured it, I really did), an ‘out and out’ liar, Microsoft losing my account and fatigue (a friend helpfully suggesting this is hormonal….) and well, you get the gist.

I followed my instinct today and put a rescue plan into place immediately, just in case I was tempted to remove a certain part of my landlord’s anatomy that I am sure he is fondly attached too.

I texted my neighbour who I guessed was on her way home from work. She is ‘fabalous’, a word we invented after sampling her vodka mixers, where I swear I lost all the hairs in my nostrils on taking the first sip. My text read ‘Please come round when you can and bring Mars bars….I will trade homemade cake’. She did and we sat drinking tea (honestly), eating cake and Mars bars and the walls were soon ringing with our usual helpless laughter. Balance was quickly restored.

God bless her, for she is truly ‘fabalous’……x


18 Responses to “The restorative powers of friends who make you laugh and Mars bars…….”

  1. 1 Marylin Warner June 17, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    Oh, Jane, you made my day with this post, you really did!
    Your trials were neither worse nor better than mine; they were just funnier because you made them that way, and I loved it.
    I would gladly lose nose hairs for one of the ‘fabalous’ vodka mixers with you and your neighbor.


    • 2 Jane Thorne June 19, 2013 at 8:26 am

      Thanks Marylin, it’s lovely to hear from you. My neighbour is very ‘fabalous’ and I went out on a date last night in her shawl, with her lovingly checking me over before I departed. What is so very lovely about her is there is no judgement so I can completely relax around her. Such a joy. Xx


  2. 3 Maxi June 15, 2013 at 10:43 am

    Oooh Jane, there would be a hole in my ceiling if I had to deal with the “out and out liar.” Add some more of that vodka and close your eyes honey, it will all work out.
    blessings ~ maxi


    • 4 Jane Thorne June 17, 2013 at 7:27 am

      Hi Maxi, I said my piece (I’ve said a few pieces lately…which is unusual) – Mars must be conjuncting with Uranus up there! Big hugs for you xxx


  3. 5 1smiles June 14, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    Your friendship sounds amazing and exactly what you need. Hahahahahaha! I love the swirling laughter.
    Love & Hugs,
    Jeannie xxxxxxx


  4. 7 countingducks June 14, 2013 at 9:09 am

    Difficult landlords are a real and constant nightmare I know, so you have much sympathy on that front. As always thank goodness for friends and tea. The perfect blend for most situations


  5. 9 ianscyberspace June 14, 2013 at 4:48 am

    You can always bring a smile to my lips with your descriptions. Let’s hope the one who described your condition as hormonal was not a man. Men are killed for much less than that! LOL


    • 10 Jane Thorne June 15, 2013 at 6:43 am

      Hello Ian and thank you, I’m glad I make you smile. Your comment made me laugh and it’s true, men have been killed for less…my brave commenting soul was a woman! Hope all is good with you? 🙂


  6. 11 Eric Alagan June 14, 2013 at 12:48 am

    Great to have such friends – nothing like laughter to get some well needed balance.

    I’m sure if you put your mind to it – you’ll win over that landlord of yours, complete with appendages.


    • 12 Jane Thorne June 15, 2013 at 6:41 am

      Hello my lovely buddy..I love laughter and friendship and as for my landlord…Hhmmmmm…contact on a needs only basis I think! Lovely to hear from you as always. Big hugs Xxxx


  7. 13 elenacaravela June 13, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    The absolute recipe for an improved mood:) Hope it’s better now Jane!


  8. 15 tornadoday June 13, 2013 at 8:45 pm

    I love this, Jane. It reminds me of a dear friend that I’ve had for many (many) years. On more than one occassion we’ve shared, “In your life, you may mess up a whole lot of things, but this is the one thing you can’t f-up.” I absolutely love those kind of friends – the ones we find, and the ones who find us. I may just have to borrow your word for a bit……….fabalous! I love that…….and you. ~ Bobbie


  9. 17 susank456 June 13, 2013 at 8:25 pm

    I’ve had those weeks too. Thank goodness it’s almost Friday. Hang in there.


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