“There is no past that we can bring back by longing for it. Only a present that builds and creates itself as the past withdraws.”

tapestry of love

This quote is a line that Evelyn (Judi Dench) wisely imparts in the fabulous film ‘The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel’. She also says that is it not just about adapting to life in a new environment, but learning to thrive.

I have had the belief, for some years now, that I would eventually settle down with a man who was practical, creative and we would live in the country, renovating an old house, making things (probably furniture) with a motley selection of animals around us.

Pause for hearty laughter as life held a different plan…..

I love a man who is original, creative in thought, business orientated, blessed with endless energy and so driven that he can make things happen by sheer will. He is passionate about youth, how we nurture the next generation and sees ice sport as a good way of achieving this. He is on the committee that have set-up a ‘not for profit’ ice rink and are running it with volunteers. This gives the youth, ice hockey teams and figure skaters somewhere to go whilst the private ice rink site is closed and being re-built. Parents, children and adults were all traveling over an hour to get to the nearest rink, and thanks to this group who remained undaunted, they now have a local facility.

The man I love lives in the middle of a city and I live with him, in a normal thirty year old house on an estate.

The estate is bordered by an ancient wood, enclosed in 1264, and our garden is bordered by trees at the back. There are trees wherever you look, and it is so peaceful here that it is hard to believe that we are minutes away from the city centre. There is a local shopping area, a short walk up the hill, with an independent butcher, baker, greengrocer and chemist. I like to walk up there and buy the bits and pieces we need. There is a playground on the way and I can see us with the baby in our family having fun together when the weather improves…our granddaughter took her first steps this week.

Our home is a wee bit tired and dated and we are blessed with a lovely landlord. Over a few cups of tea, many plans have been made, and the whole house is being completely re-vamped over the next year. My creativity is running amok with ideas on furniture re-finishing and soft furnishings that will bring all the work together. There are huge secondhand warehouses near us and I can see many happy hours being spent discovering furniture down there.

Patience has never been one of my virtues, and I am learning that it takes time to adjust, for the threads we need to weave together to show themselves.

This man and I are blessed with bright threads, love is weaving them together, creating a tapestry where we are both starting to thrive. It is not the tapestry I expected, but I have discovered that a different tapestry holds the good stuff.


24 Responses to ““There is no past that we can bring back by longing for it. Only a present that builds and creates itself as the past withdraws.””

  1. 1 elenacaravela December 27, 2013 at 1:49 pm

    Sounds like a beautiful tapestry.


  2. 3 tornadoday December 17, 2013 at 6:14 pm

    I am also reminded of a favorite quote. ‘I prayed for a miracle and received one. It isn’t what I expected, but it is exactly what I needed.’ πŸ™‚


  3. 5 tornadoday December 17, 2013 at 6:00 pm

    I am convinced that all we’ve known goes with us – a sweet carriage of yesterdays and almost was……….. And yet, this – this place we have found – it is a destination written from the past……..for it is never really passed at all. Our longing is renewed – not for a person but for a touch. Beautiful, Jane. I am so happy for you! ~ Bobbie


  4. 7 Maxi December 16, 2013 at 8:05 pm

    You must be overwhelmed at your new love and life Jane … excited to wake each morn with your heart ready to take on the day.

    You deserve each and every moment of bliss with your David. May your days be long and filled with light.
    blessings ~ maxi


  5. 9 ianscyberspace December 16, 2013 at 12:20 am

    What a delightful blog, and that film was marvellous wasn’t it? lol


  6. 11 Eric Alagan December 15, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    This is so lovely to read Jane buddy – and I’m so very happy for you.

    Your granddaughter’s first steps – That’s marvellous.

    All good wishes and much luv and hugz,


    • 12 Jane Thorne December 17, 2013 at 10:12 pm

      Thanks my lovely buddy. We had a family gathering today and it was lovely to see our children and little granddaughter all together. Heart pictures. Big hugs to you and Lisa. Xxxx


  7. 13 jacquelinehanginginthere December 15, 2013 at 10:52 pm

    I guess interior design starts from within and you certainly know about that. Hey I’m also not surprised to learn you have good taste in cushions. I have no doubt that you will both weave a wonderful tapestry. You go girl!


  8. 15 journeyintopoetry December 15, 2013 at 3:52 pm

    Ah Jane this is such a lovely happy post and Im still brimming with joy for your new but “different” life.

    You sound like a good interior designer! I am not good at this! I know what I like when I see it but Im no good at getting there. I need someone to look into my mind, heart and soul, see exactly what it is I want and then make it hapoen so I can say “yes! Thats exactly it”!! πŸ˜„

    Love the quote too, and loved the film.

    Much love and happiness to you from
    Your funky teapotty friend!


    • 16 Jane Thorne December 15, 2013 at 4:16 pm

      Hello lovely Chris, my funky teapot friend….so many ideas flow through my head, and there’s not enough time. πŸ™‚ Much love and big hugs for you my lovely. Xxxxx πŸ™‚


  9. 17 susank456 December 15, 2013 at 3:27 pm

    Lucky you! Life always throws us some curves, but it looks like these curves are good curves.


    • 18 Jane Thorne December 15, 2013 at 3:37 pm

      Hello Susan, I hope your recovery is coming on in leaps and bounds? Sending healing energy your way. Life’s curves have been challenging for such a long time, that my new and lovely curves are taking some getting used to!! Much love to you. Xxx


      • 19 susank456 December 15, 2013 at 3:41 pm

        So far so good, I get tired easy, but I’m getting there. It’s good that you finally have someone that appreciates you as much as you appreciate him. Much love back to you too.


        • 20 Jane Thorne December 15, 2013 at 3:46 pm

          I have been through similar to you and yes, the fatigue is mind numbing….I promise it will pass. Your system has taken a huge hit, but your strength and sparkliness will return. Self nurture helps doesn’t it? Why are we so bad at caring for ourselves?? Much love to you. Xxx


          • 21 susank456 December 15, 2013 at 3:56 pm

            We have been taught since birth that we are to care for others and caring for ourselves is selfish. It has taken a long time for us to realize that we need to take care of ourselves in order to be able to take care of our loved ones. Weird huh?


          • 22 Jane Thorne December 15, 2013 at 4:00 pm

            A lot of the things we were taught are ‘upside down’…it is always worth re-thinking things! Xxx


  10. 23 1smiles December 15, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    It seems you’ve found a worthy and loving anchor in your life. You can venture off with him to discover the adventures that this love is bringing you both. Many hugs and much love to you,
    Jeannie xxxxxoooxx


    • 24 Jane Thorne December 15, 2013 at 4:13 pm

      Jeannie, WP put your comment into spam….how very dare they!! Thank you my lovely, you are so right. It just goes to show that we never know what seas we are traveling towards. I love you, biggest hugs coming across ‘the pond’ for you from me. Xxxx


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