A new stairway to climb…

stone stairway

I can see this blog post starting with a natter, so forgive me. Writing is a passion of mine and I have found that it helps soothe and shed light in equal measure.

There are many romantic myths surrounding relationships and I do not for one minute, think that any two people coming together will always have plain sailing. A relationship remains a work in progress I feel, ever moving and adapting as life flows along.

My belief is that when two become one, you remain individuals and you meet in the middle. It is what you two create in your special place, in the middle, that becomes your relationship. It is your foundation together.

I have always seen love as a gift, without price, given freely and without expectation. To be loved, is to feel special and valued as an individual.

Everyone loves differently and expresses that love differently. Sadly, there are times when two people, even if they do love each other, do not compliment each other’s ways of expression.

My brother summed up my current plight when he called this morning to see how I was. He said that I had been brave to take a chance on love, brave to see the signals that highlighted imbalance and brave to step away.

As with grace and kindness I have stepped away and I am starting a new chapter. David and I remain friends, which is a gift.


27 Responses to “A new stairway to climb…”

  1. 1 Jean March 5, 2014 at 12:44 am

    I’m not aware of what has happened to you Jane in the past few months. But I wish the path isn’t overly rocky.

    Trust in yourself in the best and may you surround yourself with support of family and friends.


    • 2 Jane Thorne March 5, 2014 at 10:07 am

      Whatever tears have flowed Jean, there are many adventures in store and I am open to them all. It’s good to hear from you and thank you for taking the time to read and leave a lovely comment. x


  2. 3 Marylin Warner February 26, 2014 at 2:50 am

    Perfect words with stunning picture to illustrate starting a new chapter! Good for you!


  3. 5 ianscyberspace February 20, 2014 at 2:21 am

    Yes one should not lose their individuality in a close relationship like marriage. In fact it’s important to recognize and cultivate individuality within that relationship if it is to last. You are on the right track.


  4. 7 elenacaravela February 20, 2014 at 12:54 am

    Ah Jane. Transitions are tough, but as always you face them with such grace. Sending you a little extra light:)


    • 8 Jane Thorne February 20, 2014 at 8:54 am

      You are so kind Elena, if I couldn’t hold onto the grace I would wail, and that’s never graceful. Thank you for the extra light. Xx


  5. 9 Eric Alagan February 19, 2014 at 11:12 pm

    Remain strong and true – if there is someone looking, you’ll find one another.

    Much luv and hugz,


  6. 11 Al February 19, 2014 at 10:36 pm

    Felt kind of funny to hit the “like” button for this post…so I didn’t. But be sure you know that you’re a person whom it is easy to love and appreciate…. and without even having met you. Your grace of expression and gentle verse tell me all I need to know.

    From the comments, it also sounds like you are surrounded by friends of like qualities. Let me put it in today’s vernacular…..you rock, Jane.


  7. 13 Frank February 19, 2014 at 8:18 pm

    Hi Jane,
    I told you before i am always amazed to see how you manage to bounce back when ever you fall…
    People who have come to know you will recognize and admire your strenght and courage..
    We all make choises along the way and sometimes take a turn that might turn out to lead into a direction we didnt want to travel…
    But none the less they always teach us something if we are willing to see it..
    And as long as we focus on where we want to go we will get there..
    As my mom always used to say there’s not victory without a struggle…
    I think you will epxerience the support of those who care for you, and as far as i know there’s quite a lot of people who do…

    Your friend,


  8. 17 Angela February 19, 2014 at 6:46 pm

    You say it so beautifully Jane. And even though it sings on the staves of truth, it can still bring forth tears and sorrow… for many of our songs must come to an end to allow for the next one. But we will always remember the love in the melody. Much love to you, my friend. xxx


    • 18 Jane Thorne February 19, 2014 at 6:57 pm

      Thank you Angela, for your love and support. Each song is different and weaving the threads in our tapestry. I hopoe your pain is easing my lovely? It is lovely to be back in touch. Much love and healing energy to you. ❤ Xxx


      • 19 Angela February 19, 2014 at 7:00 pm

        It is easing, Jane, thank you. Strangely, I could only write about it after I had climbed to the summit and understood, and let go, of the stuff it was hiding. The same blessings to you, my friend. xxx


        • 20 Jane Thorne February 19, 2014 at 7:03 pm

          Oh Angela, we climb at our own pace and I am lovingly pleased to hear that you have climbed yours. We use our creativity to find our way don’t we? Much love to you Xxxx


  9. 21 tornadoday February 19, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    every thread but a piece of the larger pattern we’ve yet to see……….. Love to you, my strong beautiful friend. ~ Ever, Bobbie


  10. 26 journeyintopoetry February 19, 2014 at 5:19 pm

    Jane, your brother is right and I couldnt have said it any better. We have chatted about this so I don’t feel it necessary to add more here, except to say I truly admire how you are handling it all, and am sending you love in abundance, which includes big hugs. ❤ Xx


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