It’s OK to be human…..


I was looking for a photo for a friend today and I found this one. I had such fun on that farm a few years ago. Nothing was as expected, but there were so many gifts nestled within those ten days that I look back on it with joy.

Looking at the tractor and digger photos also remind me of what I hold inside and what I am capable of.

There is this myth that as spiritual beings we are always calm, transcending obstacles and flowing a ‘Zen’ like energy at all times. Rubbish!! (Yes Mum I was tempted to write another word there….). We are spiritual beings having a human experience and within that experience we all get angry, sad, upset, hurt, down, weepy, fed-up, bored and a myriad of other emotions. It’s natural and OK to have them, to be real and authentic to you.

We are not those emotions though…they do not define us.

What defines us is how long we hold onto them. Ralph Waldo Emerson commented that a minute of anger, was sixty seconds of happiness lost. A wise man. X

If we can observe our feelings and acknowledge them, yet not attach to them, then we are free of their hold on us. It falls to us to help ourselves by being brave enough to learn the ‘tools’ and things we can do to observe and not attach to emotions. It’s OK to feel emotion, it’s natural and human. The trick is not to stay in that state. We can use our own ‘tools’ and also be vulnerable enough to turn to others for help when we need it. No one size fits all ‘tool’ wise and we, and our lives, change, so it’s an ever evolving practice. A practice of love and self-nurturing.

Into the mix above we also have humour and I have a few mental signs that get used quite often…..these can be emailed privately upon request.



29 Responses to “It’s OK to be human…..”

  1. 1 Aquileana November 15, 2016 at 2:19 am

    Beautifully written and well stated… we feel but we are not our emotions: that´s a powerful and accurate statement dear Jane… It is great to “see” you… sending love & best wishes. Aquileana 😀


  2. 3 Christy B November 13, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    It is so easy to get caught up in emotions.. thanks for the genuine thoughts you share here. I love that quote too about losing happiness because of an angry period. Yes!


  3. 5 dgkaye October 28, 2016 at 11:51 pm

    Yes, it’s quite ok to be human Jane. A beautiful sentiment as always in your posts. ❤ xo


  4. 8 Marylin Warner October 28, 2016 at 1:02 am

    These are your “signature” pictures, Jane. Nothing says Zen in balance with chaos like farm implements, especially a tractor ready to do much good or charge forward to be earth shattering. 😉
    This post if rich with unexpected combinations of truth. Well done!


    • 9 Jane Sturgeon November 1, 2016 at 8:06 am

      Ahh thank you my lovely…you made me chuckle at the thought of the tractor being earth shattering. Implements to charge forward with…ohh, what a thought. Hugs and much love for you ❤ xXx


  5. 10 ianscyberspace October 27, 2016 at 10:58 pm

    I liked the quote from Emerson.


  6. 12 tornadoday October 27, 2016 at 10:37 pm

    We are not bodies in possession of a soul, but rather souls in possession of bodies……… Our power lies much deeper than bone! ❤ Always with love my sweet beautiful friend!


  7. 14 clarepooley33 October 27, 2016 at 9:47 pm

    Wonderful! You are completely right Jane. Ultimately, we are the ones who suffer the most if we hang on to those harmful emotions of anger, jealously etc.


  8. 19 Al October 27, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    Looks to me like you missed your colling. You should be running a construction business!


  9. 21 grandfathersky October 27, 2016 at 4:12 pm

    I always liked Marshal McLuhan’s saying “We shape our tools, and thereafter our tools shape us”.


  10. 25 Peter Wells aka Countingducks October 27, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    What an interesting and thoughtful post. Very enjoyable. I always pleased I got to actually meet you and it is listed as one of my highpoints for 2016 x


  11. 27 journeyintopoetry October 27, 2016 at 2:24 pm

    Oh yes, I love this! And how wonderful that very often our own life experiences, pleasant and unpleasant and with all their accompanying emotions, can be observed, as you say, and then let loose and here in your wonderful words Jane, you have loosened them to fly free and help others. They have certainly helped me my precious friend.

    I think you recently emailed me some of the useful signs! ❤️ Always xx


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