On the edge of moments…

I watched the tide come in yesterday and as the beach disappeared I was reminded of the flow of it all. Within twelve hours the beach will re-appear and the cycle will repeat.

Earlier, on this post, I wrote a story to illustrate a philosophy that I believe. I have sat knitting tonight and sharing what I did was not sitting well with me, as it wasn’t my tale to tell. So, let me put it another way. I struggle with seasonal goodwill and festivities and have done for many years now. If I could hibernate till it was all over, I would. A friend feeling the same way reached out for support and we agreed that there must be many others feeling as we do.

‘There is no such thing as a normal family or a normal Christmas. We are force fed these images of perfection and they are not real. Christmas has been hijacked by commercial enterprise and we don’t need to buy into it. Life is messy. We are messy. Goodness knows it’s a mess in our heads, so mess is bound to follow when we interact with each other. Yay to the mess! Joy comes in moments.’

‘I feel our purpose in life is to learn how to love. We try and fail and try again. Create and destroy and create again. Learn and forget and learn again. We just need to show up every day and stay open-hearted.’

71 Responses to “On the edge of moments…”


  1. 1 Bette A. Stevens December 4, 2019 at 10:22 pm

    I’m with you, Jane! Thanks for sharing…

    Liked by 1 person

  2. 3 Eric Alagan November 29, 2019 at 4:12 am

    Hello dear buddy,

    I believe we are here to learn – and as we learn, we act with love and grow spiritually and get closer to God.

    L&H
    Eric

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  3. 5 Al November 28, 2019 at 2:29 pm

    Don’t know how I missed this post, Jane, but here I am finally. Just from the myriad responses to this post tells me you hit a chord with many, many people. So much of our lives have been commercialized, if you think of all the “make believe” special occasions we are supposed to observe with family, friends , lovers or all three at once, it boggles the mind. You are dead right. If we just lived each day by the Golden Rule we would need none of it. Not to mention what a better world it would be.

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  4. 9 Elizabeth Ann Johnson-Murphree November 28, 2019 at 11:38 am

    I loved this post…as I have been thinking about my own family. No one is perfect and the “fight” goes on. Thank you again for these wonderful words, your thoughts. E.

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  5. 11 roughwighting November 24, 2019 at 2:41 pm

    Our beautiful messes are so much better than the slick unappealing, unbelievable images TV/commercials/social media try to force feed on us. I’m with you – let’s ignore the commercialism and stick with our own beautiful messes – throughout the holidays AND all of life! xo

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  6. 15 CarolCooks2 November 24, 2019 at 3:09 am

    What lovely sentiments, Jane…but as long as there are unicorns the mess isn’t quite so messy…X

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  7. 22 Clare Pooley November 22, 2019 at 12:08 am

    Such good advice, Jane! In recent years I have come to almost dread Christmas because of the hype and all the things that are expected of me. I love Christ’s Mass but not this buying/cooking fest with no time for self-reflection or any peace at all.

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  8. 29 dgkaye November 21, 2019 at 10:27 pm

    Loved this Jane. We are all just a beautiful mess lol ❤

    Liked by 1 person

  9. 32 Val Boyko November 21, 2019 at 8:50 pm

    Well said Jane. There are many that share your feelings. 💛

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  10. 34 Sue Dreamwalker November 21, 2019 at 11:17 am

    Well said Jane.. I feel much the same..

    Yes our purpose in life is to learn how to love, and its not just meant for sharing seasonally…

    Christmas began in some stores here in late August, and I cringed when I saw the baubles and cards for sale.. You are right its become all about selling, not the gift of giving…

    It matters not what ‘Things’ we have, if the most important gift of Love is absent…
    Much better to share love all year around..

    And like you, I hibernate with my knitting needles … Sending much love your way Jane.. and I thank you for your open hearted kindness.. 💚🙏💙

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  11. 42 drjurisharma November 21, 2019 at 10:42 am

    Beautiful piece of wisdom 🙏😍

    Liked by 1 person

  12. 44 smzang November 20, 2019 at 7:30 pm

    This puts the holidays (all of them) in the proper perspective. We should all be content with what we are doing. If we are not, we have the option to change it, based on our own
    wants and needs, not on the hype of a salesperson on any level. You make it all so simple
    and so acceptable. You take the angst out of holiday anxiety. You do good, Jane.


    Sarah

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  13. 48 grandfathersky November 20, 2019 at 5:58 pm

    The Greeks called it agape. Devine love … 1 Corinthians 13 – everything flows from love

    Liked by 1 person

  14. 50 Jude LeMoine November 20, 2019 at 11:57 am

    Wise words. Good advice.

    Liked by 1 person

  15. 52 Mum November 20, 2019 at 11:29 am

    Well said, I am on your page darling, thanks for the heads up. We will do what we always do together, make the most of it in our own way. Love Granny Trish, Mum, general factotum. xxx

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  16. 54 Leny November 20, 2019 at 10:01 am

    Wonderful insights as ever Jane,…it’s all so true x

    Liked by 1 person

  17. 56 ianscyberspace November 20, 2019 at 12:47 am

    You are right, Christmas has been hijacked by the rich and powerful to make money out of us. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  18. 61 delphini510 November 19, 2019 at 9:22 pm

    Jane, that is what a close friend is for. To see both the fun and the truth
    in a situation that seems overwhelming.
    I love your post and agree totally with your philosophy. 😊.

    Miriam

    Liked by 1 person

  19. 63 John W. Howell November 19, 2019 at 8:46 pm

    Show up and stay open-hearted. What great advice, Jane. Makes life simple.

    Liked by 1 person

  20. 65 Yeah, Another Blogger November 19, 2019 at 6:27 pm

    Hello there. Good piece.

    My latest effort is very different than yours, but I think it originates from a similar “place” and sensibility. Take care.

    Neil Scheinin

    Liked by 1 person

  21. 67 Jacqui Murray November 19, 2019 at 6:19 pm

    I have found its best to step aside and let everyone else work things out. If something involves me, I do what works for me, also. It’s not always perfect but I end up having fun!

    Liked by 1 person

  22. 69 Writing to Freedom November 19, 2019 at 4:40 pm

    Good advice from a good friend. Kudos Jane.

    Liked by 1 person


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