My clients are a rich source of inspiration and my heart was tugged recently by one lovely lady almost drowning in her grief. She is hanging on in there though and holding out her hand to take baby steps forward. Whilst talking with her I realised that she was already under terrible pressure but she was increasing this by saying that she should be starting to feel better and things should be starting to ease up for her.
There is no ‘should’ about it.
‘Should’ is a straight-jacket and I have dropped it from my vocabulary.
Removal of this word brings palpable and immediate relief.